Your mother has been relying on your help for a long time. Maybe it’s been several weeks, months, or even years. You never thought you would be a full-time or even part-time caregiver to her, but as she dealt with health issues or even injuries from a slip and fall accident, you took it upon yourself to be there for her as often as you could.
You already knew your mother was a highly demanding individual, possibly even described as being “needy,” but she’s taking this to an entirely new level. Sometimes you go home late at night completely exhausted and wonder if she thinks being demanding is going to be a new Olympic sport because she’s training hard for it.
The bottom line is simple: you are burning out. The stress is becoming too much and you know neither of you would do well to continue down this path for much longer. You’ve been looking into home care options, but because of her temperament you worry a fight is about to be unleashed into your life over this topic.
The best thing to do is gather as much information about home care as possible.
You may be right. Your mother may be adamantly opposed to even the notion of hiring a home care aide, somebody she would view as a total stranger coming into her house and helping her when you’re fully available.
She might have built in defenses all ready to rail against this idea. She might try to undermine the entire topic right away by clinging to various myths and misconceptions she has about home care support.
The more facts and information you have on hand, the easier it’s going to be for you to handle whatever strikes and attacks she levels against home care.
Realize you can say no.
Many family caregivers continue dealing with overwhelming stress and anxiety, even seeing the relationship with this aging senior deteriorate as a result, mostly because they don’t think they have any other option. You do.
You can say no. You can say enough. As long as you present an alternative (and a wonderful one at that in the form of home care), you can tell your mother this is not something that can continue the way it’s been going.
Explain your frustrations. Explain what she might be missing out on. And explain again the benefits an experienced home care aide can bring to the table. She may just be willing to listen more than you realize at this point in her life.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care for seniors in Spokane, WA, please contact the friendly staff at Love in Home Senior Care, today. Call (509) 474-0663
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