You see it clearly. You can’t imagine no one else sees what you observe. You’ve been taking care of your mother or father for a while, and though you may not consider yourself a caregiver, if you’ve been helping them with anything around the house, doing some shopping for them, driving them different places, and so on, that’s exactly what you are, and that can cause a lot of stress.
The more time you spend as a caregiver, the more you think you ‘know’ what’s best.
You may know exactly the best thing to do. You may truly understand the safety issues that exist, even if they don’t want to see it. However, when you begin telling your mother or father or some other elderly individual what they can or can’t do, what they should or shouldn’t do, it’s often going to cause friction and problems in the relationship.
Your parents already understand their difficulties.
Even though some people don’t want to openly admit they have difficulty getting up from a chair, walking down the stairs, or even getting something from a cabinet in the kitchen, that doesn’t mean they don’t see the changes in their physical capabilities. They worry about their independence.
They worry about what might be taken away from them, what they may lose, or how people are going to treat them differently in the event they willingly admit these things or go along with the direction of somebody else.
Some parents also have difficulty accepting advice from children.
Even though the family caregiver may be in her 40s or 50s, having raised children of her own, her parents may still see her, in a way, as the teenager she once was. It’s difficult for people to see others as they are, and only see them as they were.
If parents can’t accept this advice or don’t want to even think about relying on somebody else, if they refuse to listen to an adult child trying to help them out because of some innate concerns or fears of losing some of their independence, then home care should be considered.
A home care aide who has experience can help elderly clients in a way many family caregivers can’t. That professional relationship is much different than the personal one the senior has with his or her adult child caregiver. It can be a great alternative that reduces the risk of relationship challenges and tension that can cause too much stress for both.
If you or an aging loved one are considering hiring home care to reduce caregiver stress in Stone Mountain, GA, please contact the caring staff at Home Helpers, call (678) 430-8511.
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