Living life as a family caregiver is going to be stressful. Even if you aren’t working at a job right now when your elderly mother (for example) needs help, you will likely find yourself devoting more and more time to this effort. That means less time for the things you enjoy or need to do.
When we have less time for these other things, stress in our lives increases.
The more stress you experience, the shorter your temper, the more likely you are to get frustrated easily, and the tougher it’s going to be to maintain a good, positive attitude and relationship with the senior who counts on you for support.
What happens if that senior is ‘difficult?’
It may feel as though your elderly mother is simply being petty about far too many things lately. You suggested she cut out sugar from her diet and she called you a name. You want her to be safe, so you advised her to avoid certain activities around the house and she brought up memories of things you did as a child.
All of this seems petty, and it will negatively affect you and your relationship with her. Despite your best intentions and desire to keep things calm and rational and let things ‘roll off your back,’ they will start seeping in and affecting you.
You’ll begin thinking about these things at night when you can’t sleep. You’ll start replaying these episodes over and over and it will cause more frustration, anxiety, and stress.
What can you do about it now, though?
There’s no reason for you to quit, right? After all, since you don’t have a full-time job, isn’t your mother going to simply accuse you of not loving her anymore, being selfish, and so forth? More pettiness from her can certainly create fear and anxiety within you, ultimately leading you to continue being her caregiver when you already know the best thing is to step back and away.
Home care support services are ready to help.
You don’t have to feel completely alone in this. Home care agencies provide experienced caregivers who can help your mother, keep her safe while you focus on your own health and well-being. Your mother may be petty, ornery, or mean to home care aides just as she is to you, but these caregivers likely have experience and no personal relationship upon which to hang those petty comments or attitudes.
It will help you and your mother in the long run and provide a higher quality of life and support for her.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Spokane Valley, WA, please contact the friendly staff at Love in Home Senior Care, today. Call (509) 474-0663
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